Angel and I have been planning on sharing our reflections and learnings from Tim Keller’s book The Meaning of Marriage. Back story first, Angel shared to me her book so I will be guided with how marriage should be, even before we got engaged. 😉 Took me a while to finish it but yes finally I did. So… here’s the first on the series of our book reflections.
Chapter 1: The Secret of Marriage
Chapter 1 opened with the verse Ephesians 5:31-32, where Tim expounds on why marriage is a profound mystery. Tim started with some history on marriage and its current decline based on statistics. I never saw it the way he sees it and it is sad that more people do not see how important marriage is in a Biblical sense.
For instance, most people today want to live with their partner’s first and “try-it-out” and then separates if it doesn’t work. Some would have to look for their perfect soul-mate and have ridiculous check lists first before they even think of marriage. And some men would think we need a lot of wealth before we get married, me included. I originally thought that I should marry when I’m 30 and “I’m ready to settle” but I learned it doesn’t have to be like that. My best affirmation from God is this: that I can be better with a partner and that we can build our own empire together. 🙂
My other take away from this chapter is how Tim talked about people who are also afraid of marriage due to what they see in the environment and how difficult they think it is. But what I didn’t realize before is that it really is difficult or challenging but it is as well wonderful and exciting(Thanks Tim!). The key to this secret that Tim shared is in the Bible, Ephesians 5:25,
Husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the Church.
Easy to say, hard to do!
Hope you can check out the book and see for your selves. I really encourage you to read the book